Our Story

While many of you know me and Tim personally some of you don't. Let me tell you a little about ourselves.

We both grew up in the same small town in California. We went to junior high and high school together. We didn't hang in the same crowds, we didn't even have the same classes. Flash forward 7 years to 2013 and somehow the fates aligned and we got to talking. 

I was just recently out of a long term relationship, Tim had just moved to North Carolina for school but he took the chance to send me a Facebook message. We started to message one another, turned into text messages and turned into phone calls. He was returning to California for Christmas and we decided to get together for a drink and catch up. He was going to be home for 3 weeks and in those 3 weeks we ended up spending as much time together as possible. We even ended up having Christmas dinner together, and spending New Years together. It was a magical 3 weeks. The kind that any girl would want. I feel loved, and wanted and needed. After our time together Tim was going back to North Carolina and I was staying in California. We decided we would attempt a long distance relationship. We knew it was a shot in the dark but we figured what the heck why not try. We weren't young anymore and if it was meant to happen it would happen.

I made my first trip out to North Carolina was wonderful. Tim should be around his campus, showed me around Charlotte, and we even got to celebrate my birthday together. A few months later I drove down to Los Angeles when he was there for a race and we got to spend the weekend together. I got to see what he was doing for a living (let me just tell you the NASCAR world is pretty damn cool). 

It just so happened that during our first year of dating we got to see each other around every 2-3 months. It was hard at times. So hard. There were nights we were sad, nights we missed each other, and times that driving away from he airport was the hardest thing I had ever done. Many asked me if it was worth it. Was this relationship worth it? It was new, I could find someone closer to home people said. Yes that was true, but I truly loved Tim and I wanted it to work! 

There was a time we were dating and I was visiting in North Carolina. Our spark wasn't there. Things were different. Tim was depressed. I was depressed. Something wasn't clicking. When I got home form that visit I broke up with him (wasn't my finest moment). A day after I did it, I wanted to take it back. I wanted him back. He wasn't going to let me off that easy. He told me I had to work for it, and he wasn't going to say yes until we saw each other in person. So for 2 months we talked, he never called me baby, didn't say he loved me. It hurt, boy did it hurt, but I deserved it. Just because the going got tough I broke up with him. Who doest that? I did that. But I am so grateful that he didn't just walk away and that he made me fight for us because we were worth fighting for. 

Tim came home Christmas of 2014. We had talked to one another about getting engaged and getting married. We knew that we wanted both. We had said that while he was home, the engagement was probably going to happen but I wasn't allowed to know anything. I decided to take him to the Monterey Bay Aquarium (My best friend works there so it is my happy place and she is my happy place). We drove down, spent the day at the aquarium and walking to Lovers Beach to watch the surfers. We got a hotel right on the beach on the top floor where the waves were so loud every time the crashed down. At sunset we took a walk on the beach because sunset in Monterey is magical. There are clouds, and when the sun hits the water I swear it makes a sizzling sound. Tim asked me if I loved him and I said of course. He got on one knee and pulled out the ring from his pocket and asked me to marry him. Of course I said yes, I kissed him and we both had tears streaming down our faces. That proposal was perfect for us.

So here we are the newly engaged couple. He was going back to North Carolina and I was staying in California to finish my Bachelors degree. For 6 months we did the typical saw each other every 2-3 months and we made it work as a long distance engaged couple. 

I made the move to North Carolina in August of 2015. It was the best decision I have ever made (we deciding to marry Tim). This state is beautiful, this area we live in is perfect. The weather well summers are kind of awful with the humidity and such but anything is better that 100 degrees for consecutive days back home. 

We now needed to learn to live together. We were engaged, living together for the first time, and I was homesick. Tim was amazing through my transition. We went on dates exploring the towns around us. I was fortunate to have gotten a job right away so that took up a lot of my time which definitely helped financially and mentally. Tim traveled for work every week (I will get into this in the next post). It helped that he traveled for me to transition into living there, and living with my fiancé. By no means were days always easy or were days always hard. Some days I was sad and homesick, other days I barely was homesick. I felt that North Carolina was starting to grown on me. 

Im not going to get into our wedding or the planning just yet, thats a whole post in itself. But I do hope that you realize that our relationship was by no means easy, some parts were hard and difficult. We had emotion every time we left one another, and every time we had to say goodbye. There were magical wonderful days when we would send an email, or a letter in the mail. There were days where just text message to wake up to made the whole difference. 

We are still learning these things and it takes time. Every day is a learning process and we embrace it.