Fighting is Normal

Any couple that says they don't fight is lying. Or they are saints. Tim and I we fight, sometimes we got plenty of time between fights and sometimes they happen a lot. I feel like they are essential to a healthy marriage. 

Fighting doesn't mean we hate one another. Fighting doesn't mean we love one another any less. Fighting means we are communicating and talking and getting what we are feeling out. 

I will admit that I tend to start our fights. I don't do it on purpose, but I like to hold onto things and what I am feeling and then at one time I let it all out. Tim hates it trust me, he asks me all the time why I unleash it all at once. I don't mean to, but it is how I have always been. We fight about the stupidest of things, and sometimes things are warranted. But the point is, we are human and we are totally normal. 

I look at my grandparents. They have been married 54 years and they are absolutely head over heels in love with one another. They fight and they argue. They do it in private and they do it in public. They will never tell you they don't fight, they will tell you that they fight and that its how they get everything out. I am a lot like my grandfather and thats probably why I look at their marriage and want Tim and I to have a marriage filled with love and fights. 

I want to fight with him about dishes, I want to fight with him about laundry, and I want to fight about what to watch on TV (I always win that fight).

This quote says it all. If we aren't fighting anymore then that means there is nothing left for us to fight for including our relationship. I want to know that we are fighting for us, and if that means these petty arguments than so be it. The point is we are together and communicating. That is a key to a healthy relationship.

I always told myself growing up that when I was married I would have keys to my relationship. Communication is a big key to a marriage. If your communication is through fighting at times guess what...its perfectly normal. Don't even worry about it.